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Love Yourself

“The gateways to wisdom and learning are always open, and more and more I am choosing to walk through them. Barriers, blocks, obstacles, and problems are personal teachers giving me the opportunity to move out of the past and into the Totality of Possibilities.” ~Louise L. Hay

This past week the world lost a very influential woman. A woman I describe as a fearless survivor who made such an impact on many lives throughout our world and a huge impact on my own. Louise L. Hay passed away this week of natural causes. She was an author, previously a runway model, and also the founder of Hay House Publishing. But most important of all descriptions I could give this lady is she was a fearless survivor….

I was introduced to her work by a dear friend of mine this year, but I have studied her work and her publishing house for so many years and even spoken with them on several occasions. Mrs. Hay and I had many things in common. She was into the natural healing as I am, and she has done so much work on her on mind as I have so I related to her life on many levels. In fact much of what she teaches I am aware to daily now and see lessons out of each of them. Working with many younger ladies as I do, I pass this knowledge on to help theses ladies to live their best life without much of the drama and nonsense I had to learn the hard way.

“Know that you are always safe. And also know that it’s possible to move from the old to the new, easily and peacefully.” ~Louise Hay

The lesson she speaks on most in her teachings is Love, loving yourself. This is one of the most difficult lesson I have had to cultivate in my own life. It has taken me to almost the age of 40 to understand a lot of what exactly the word LOVE means and believe me when I say I am shown daily ways of how and why I should “Love Stephanie”. But I also can see daily how it’s all around me… Meaning everyone, everywhere needs it, from their self-most!

Working with the fitness industry I find this concept to be most needed. And I have had to dig deep within myself and understand loving Stephanie through it all and why exactly I do what I do in the gym or with any sport. Doing this search wasn’t anything easy I assure you, but I am grateful I have done this work and work at it daily in fact, because I can relate to the people I am training on all types of levels for their fitness and mental aspects. I see so clearly how loving yourself helps with success in this area but with every area. This is a teaching I learned with Louise Hay, but also going back to biblical knowledge of it too. In Mark 12:30 it states clearly also, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, and all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.” Once again it took me many many years to understand the knowledge in that passage. We all are a piece of God so we are required for peace of mind to Love God, to Love ourself…..

These lessons on love do come to me daily and what’s so wonderful to my heart is now I can see them as a lesson. The old me looked at it as life attacking me in some way and I would always end up asking myself “Why is this happening to me always?” Well these same situations coming around to me over and over are important messages life is speaking I can see now. Just the other day I had one of those same situations come around my way again… Only I haven’t had it in quite a while it came and came bearing angry hateful words, but one beautiful lesson for my heart and soul that my eyes could see and my heart could finally feel….

I mentioned above I work in the fitness industry, I am a certified trainer. I did not go out in life striving to become this, I got a business degree of all things. This thing sort of came to me and I look at it now as a spiritual gift I have and my intentions are to utilize this gift at the best of my abilities. But when you have gifts you also have darkness around you also I understand, and I understand this now to be those stumbling blocks placed in your path to test your faith and test your gift. The old Stephanie never saw this gift, and never saw much of anything other than finding for herself. The other day the situation that came up again was what I call a piece of the dark night of my own soul coming out of the dark only to find light… It was in the moment of this chaotic situation I was able to look at the person yelling and speaking so bitterly to me and not only hear the true message in the chaos but to see and feel it and so vividly…. It was a cry for love a cry for help…. In that moment of bitter words and chaotic stress I knew my soul had evolved in so many wonderful ways because I could look into that hateful situation and see and feel it at my own core to be a powerful message, and take a breath of love and hold complete composure to the old me.

I left that situation feeling so much satisfaction and grace… This old stumbling block that has always shown up in my path with its darkness and I always reacted to it with darkness, I felt gratification and a sense of complete achievement! I had finally shined light on this darkness of mine and my heart felt whole… It was a release to me, I was finally letting go of that side of myself and letting it go with grace.

“No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for ‘we’ are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.” ~Louise Hay

To end this entry I can say and say wholeheartedly that Love is the answer to most every question we have in our life I have found. Even through all my studies and all my readings I have done over the years it all goes back to this simple yet complex word, Love. I myself, have always searched for a full experience of love, and as I have said many times it has taken me to almost the age of 40 to see that the love I have always yearned for was love for Stephanie. As the late Louise Hay taught, until we cultivate a love within our self we will never obtain love on the outside…. And I finally understand the meaning of those words and with a most loving heart… RIP Louise Hay, you are gone but never forgotten here and I do my best to carry on your message…..